The Benefit of Friendship

TT has accepted a job in a neighboring state, and consequently moved to said state this past weekend. We hadn't seen each other for a few weeks already, and no kissing ever took place, so this was more of a friendship than a relationship, or a faux-lationship, as I like to call it. We spoke on the phone on Friday while I was driving somewhere, and he was successfully avoiding packing for a bit. I typically speak my mind, and that conversation was no different. I told him that since he was moving out of state, it was probably best for us to remain friends, but not try to create/sustain anything more. I said that if he ever moves back to my state, and the timing is better, we could try something more in the future, but for now, it's on hold indefinitely. He agreed that this was likely for the best, but was quick to suggest a FWB (friends with benefits) arrangement. I beg your pardon? Just what sort of benefits does he have in mind? When we're dating, physical contact is limited to a goodnight hug, but suddenly when we're "just friends" the making out can commence? That just... odd. Is it possible that me essentially saying "Thanks, but no thanks" has increased his interest in me? Could be. I'm thinking that now the weight of possible involvement has been lifted, and he suddenly feels at liberty to do what he has wanted to do all along. Clearly, he has been nursing some hangups that are all in his head. I personally don't see the difference between two good friends that occasionally kiss and two people that are in a dating relationship. In fact, the former pair is likely more emotionally intimate than the latter, but are just doing some compartmentalizing of their faux-lationship. It's all semantics.

Considering all of the facts in conjunction with his stone-cold fox status, I readily agreed to TT's outlandish out-of-character suggestion. If we ever actually consummate our FWB status, you can just go ahead and color me shocked. I'm getting the impression that he is nothing but a big tease, as I have yet to see one single "benefit" from this friend.